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<Passion Wolf>
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SRT I place this here because those that I wanted to read this comes here first!
you was not in the pt's that I was in. so I guess you would not had known how certain members acted. "THEY" know who they are. when a person does talk to the out cast they are also conceider an out cast. So don't say a person can talk to whom they like because you know what I have seen what members on here did to members they cast aside. who stab who in the back hmm lets see because I choose to not belittle Kinzel or hike up a bashing thread that was made about kinzel. I am a back stabber? that is a laugh. because I choose to not agree with DC. DC called me a back stabber how rich . what was so detrimental to DC that she claimed I caused? was it because I stood up and said to DC hey if you going to be the co mod or help run the board so there are no real issues with the bashing or rules being broken, SRT you know the rules that the REAL MOD made. they are for all not just the ones DC dislikes.Please do me a favor SRT you don't know what you are talking about. So please take you teeth out my leg I am tired of you trying to feed off me .
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PD, good for you for getting that off your chest. I have never been involved in the behind the scenes chats and for good reason, I knew some of the crowd and how things would turn out.
If you cant say something on the board for all to see, then usually its not worth saying at all.
And Mod, I think you should pull your co-moderators and actually hire your work out to people who have no interaction with the forums.
Posts: 3069 | Registered: Thu May 15 2003
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reposting
quote:Originally posted by Purfect Dream:
SRT I place this here because those that I wanted to read this comes here first!
you was not in the pt's that I was in. so I guess you would not had known how certain members acted. "THEY" know who they are. when a person does talk to the out cast they are also conceider an out cast. So don't say a person can talk to whom they like because you know what I have seen what members on here did to members they cast aside. who stab who in the back hmm lets see because I choose to not belittle Kinzel or hike up a bashing thread that was made about kinzel. I am a back stabber? that is a laugh. because I choose to not agree with DC. DC called me a back stabber how rich . what was so detrimental to DC that she claimed I caused? was it because I stood up and said to DC hey if you going to be the co mod or help run the board so there are no real issues with the bashing or rules being broken, SRT you know the rules that the REAL MOD made. they are for all not just the ones DC dislikes.Please do me a favor SRT you don't know what you are talking about. So please take you teeth out my leg I am tired of you trying to feed off me .
Posts: 3069 | Registered: Thu May 15 2003
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PD, I sent you a PT.
Damn good Guitarist-loving girl!!
Posts: 738 | Location (City, State): Waiting for Timmy like a lonely puppy | Registered: Thu August 10 2006
<Passion Wolf>
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HemiBulldogs thank you. This has been on my mind every since the issue began .Sorry if it is long or drawn out I just had to say it. I am sure by the time I get on the board (if I still can) it will be made out it was all my fault again. but again that ok.
I am hoping for the best. I am sure it will all wash out in the rain .As my Granny use to said 
. I do know that people on the internet are not like real friends. unless you knew them outside the internet world. well I take that back. I have spoke many times to 1 nice person on and off this site. what I should say is this. I should not expect real friendships on the net. and when you do find a friend respect them and pray they respect you 
. oh I wanted to add HemiBulldogs you really did not have to repost my comment. I would not had edited it unless I seen something wrong or an error in spelling and I catch it.
TG you have your reply back 
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Im glad you figured out who your real friends are PD. I have to say, a breeders forum is probably not a very good place to try to make friends. Breeders are a very catty bunch.
Now maybe a meetup forum where groups of people with like interests get together and meet would be a good place to make friends and mingle.
Just a suggestion. 
Posts: 3069 | Registered: Thu May 15 2003
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I hope everything works out for you PD you always been a friend to me. MM
Thumper Quote: If you can't say anything nice Don't say anything at all.
Posts: 2161 | Location (City, State): Illinois | Registered: Fri June 27 2003
Newba Pluba
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quote:Originally posted by Purfect Dream:
I don't know how old all the members are on this forum. But some of you and you know who I am referring to. Act just like kids. It seems when you dislike a person or a popular person in ones little Group gets mad at another member not just one person treats that member like dirt it seems like the whole group in that popular circle decides to get mad or ignores that one person as well just because they see the popular person doing it. Even though the group only knows half the story. I have never been a follow the leader when it came to having friends. I fell into that when I became a certain person’s friend. After I bit I more or less gave up my own options just to keep my friends.
Because when I voice my concerns or option my friends started to turn on me. I then realize the mistake I made by stating my true feelings. I have said this many times before I am very blunt but I held my true feeling back. Because I knew it would cause a big rift in my friendships and true to what I thought it had. The ones I called friend did indeed turn on me because I choose not to fight with a member or trash this same member when she no longer was a member. I am going on 40 years old and grow tired of the teenage games of“if you talk to this person when I am mad at them, you can not be my friend.”
When I requested that person would not speak to certain people that I did not care for I was told Stop acting a spoiled brat or stop throwing a tantrum. Or “If you don’t bash this person as I do I will consider you as bad as that person.” I will say this , I value my friendship. But when a person states that they have ended a friendship because that person is not in their best interest any longer to remain friend.
I will cut my lost and my loyalties are no longer with those I once called a friend.
I am starting to wonder if I join a talk forum or Grade school. Well I said my peace on this. I will not betray myself just to make friends I wont talk to a person that I don’t like just to keep a friend or the peace or act like I have no issues with a person when I do just to keep a friend. A true friend would never make their friend do anything they feel uncomfortable doing just to keep a friendship. This is how I felt just to keep the few friends I thought I had.
Good for you for stating how you feel. "Friends" like that are not really your friends. I agree that the mod should hire outside people with no connection here to be co-mods.
Posts: 31 | Location (City, State): SC | Registered: Fri June 17 2005
<Passion Wolf>
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Maddie I am sorry if you thought I did not consider you a friend .You and I talk and cut a rug when we are together. I hope you forgive me
I was tired and worn out when I wrote this. but you are a friend
quote:Originally posted by Maddie's Mom:
I hope everything works out for you PD you always been a friend to me. MM
Thumper Quote: If you can't say anything nice Don't say anything at all.
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I never thought that for a minute. I just wanted to support you and your post. MM
Posts: 2161 | Location (City, State): Illinois | Registered: Fri June 27 2003
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quote:Originally posted by Maddie's Mom:
I hope everything works out for you PD you always been a friend to me. MM
Thumper Quote: If you can't say anything nice Don't say anything at all.
Always did like Thumper
~*Wouldn’t life be great with background music?*~
Posts: 6131 | Registered: Tue April 06 2004
Very Good Pluba
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PD what you are saying is very true. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not following other people's ways.
Posts: 4770 | Registered: Sun October 26 2003
<Passion Wolf>
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MM I just wanted to clear it up because I don't want to purposely hurt anyones feels I love thumper MM. DD you know you and I don't get along but I'm glad that you do undstand what I am saying or trying to say. I want to thank those that said some supportive things concerning this topic.
HemiBulldogs you know When I first came. I thought that if you meet people that have the same interest as you, you might gain friends. I was not aware that people could and would be catty on the net (dumb me I guess) you have to remember I was new to that cat world (showing and Breeding) I mean. I join this place to get info and learn some things (cat issues wise). I know when I first came I was not the greatest but I do believe I calm down and grew up some. but it seemed this forum or certain people did not grew with me. I hope I am not confusing you with what I said. so me joining a talk just to chit chat was not what I was looking for. I could do that with yahoo messager because they have people chat boards
<Passion Wolf>
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SRT how am I playing victim? it seems by your statement that I should not go against the grain( or the powers to be) and I should just allow whatever or whomever to said what they want or do to me what they want. without saying a word. let me tell you this, if you was being talk about behind your back because you don't go with the flow and you found this out. I am sure you would not be sitting still and being quiet. No I am not a victim nor is the person you are defending. As I said you are only seeing partial pictures and not whole scope of the issue. big difference is I did not run to people and say this person betray me or say remaining their friend would be detrimental to me. I know that I am the least like person at this time, because of what you was told . if you knew the full issue you might not had even reply this topic. point is I did not post this Topic to have you or the others to bash me because I wanted my feeling to be know since I am sure the other party pt everyone and told her version.
quote:Originally posted by SRTboxer:
I wouldn't put my teeth in your leg no worries. I just think you like playing victim...that's all...
Newba Pluba
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Good for you PD. You said what I am sure many would like to say. I have to say I am not on either "side", though I visit both forums. What you said about ganging up definately shows up on both "sides".
I am sure that will put me on everyones bad side LOL, but I do like to come here and read when I am not working. I don't post often but there are some good things to learn at both forums.
Posts: 129 | Registered: Wed January 25 2006
Very Good Pluba
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quote:Originally posted by SRTboxer:
Sorry you feel that way PD. But to be fairly honest as well your "actions" as of late are not in any way created by others. You not only have to be responsible for them, but you have to deal with it.
Nobody here is saying you can't talk to this person or that one, and if they do YOU ARE AN ADULT, make up your own damn mind. It is when you stab your friends in the BACK and do things that are detrimental to THEM when you run into problems.
But whatever your feelings, they are yours and you have expressed them, though i think the OPEN forum or Psych Bench would have been more appropriate.
Sarah
Sorry Sarah, but you are wrong. The way it works around here is that if you don't agree with what certain people do to other people on here then you are the bad guy and get tormented. It happened to me. I stood up for what I believed in and was jumped because I didn't go along with the flow.
Posts: 4770 | Registered: Sun October 26 2003
Exceptional Pluba
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quote:Originally posted by SRTboxer:
Sorry you feel that way PD. But to be fairly honest as well your "actions" as of late are not in any way created by others. You not only have to be responsible for them, but you have to deal with it.
Nobody here is saying you can't talk to this person or that one, and if they do YOU ARE AN ADULT, make up your own damn mind. It is when you stab your friends in the BACK and do things that are detrimental to THEM when you run into problems.
But whatever your feelings, they are yours and you have expressed them, though i think the OPEN forum or Psych Bench would have been more appropriate.
Sarah
I apologize to all in advance for adding to this thread on Breeder's as I agree it is better suited to Open or elsewhere. PD, I know you may feel like emailing me with a new email account of your own was doing me a favor. I need to address a couple of things. First, your hypotheses are far off the mark, so much so that I think maybe you could write for the Lifetime Channel as a better use of your time. Secondly, I have been cordial to you. But, what I see lately is the biggest case or projection I think I have ever witnessed. It is YOU who acts like you have a vendetta any time someone dares to disagree with your opinion. Third, you had to stalk two of my websites to come up with my other email address. (That's right folks; she has gone so far on this latest bout as to do this...) The IP's from my sites and from those two emails match. I have reported this to the Mod - as well as the fact that she is behind or at least involved with at least one of our recent trolls here. Same misconceptions; same IP.
PD, I will ask here that you cease emailing me. I wish you well truly, but have to say I hope you will stop using others as diversions from finding better self-esteem. I choose not to be around the negativity. I agree with SRT - we are all adults. No one makes anyone do anything... and in the end, the most important thing is that a person likes and respects his or her self.
From wikipedia.com:
* "Projection is the opposite defence mechanism to identification. We project our own unpleasant feelings onto someone else and blame them for having thoughts that we really have."
* "A defense mechanism in which the individual attributes to other people impulses and traits that he himself has but cannot accept. It is especially likely to occur when the person lacks insight into his own impulses and traits."
* "Attributing one's own undesirable traits to other people or agencies."
* "The individual perceives in others the motive he denies having himself. Thus the cheat is sure that everyone else is dishonest."
* "An individual who possesses malicious characteristics, but who is unwilling to perceive himself as an antagonist, convinces himself that his opponent feels and would act the same way."
"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." -- Disraeli
Posts: 5494 | Location (City, State): Maine | Registered: Sun January 22 2006
Exceptional Pluba
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quote:Originally posted by Lorraine:
quote:Originally posted by SRTboxer:
Sorry you feel that way PD. But to be fairly honest as well your "actions" as of late are not in any way created by others. You not only have to be responsible for them, but you have to deal with it.
Nobody here is saying you can't talk to this person or that one, and if they do YOU ARE AN ADULT, make up your own damn mind. It is when you stab your friends in the BACK and do things that are detrimental to THEM when you run into problems.
But whatever your feelings, they are yours and you have expressed them, though i think the OPEN forum or Psych Bench would have been more appropriate.
Sarah
I apologize to all in advance for adding to this thread on Breeder's as I agree it is better suited to Open or elsewhere. PD, I know you may feel like emailing me with a new email account of your own was doing me a favor. I need to address a couple of things. First, your hypotheses are far off the mark, so much so that I think maybe you could write for the Lifetime Channel as a better use of your time. Secondly, I have been cordial to you. But, what I see lately is the biggest case or projection I think I have ever witnessed. It is YOU who acts like you have a vendetta any time someone dares to disagree with your opinion. Third, you had to stalk two of my websites to come up with my other email address. (That's right folks; she has gone so far on this latest bout as to do this...) The IP's from my sites and from those two emails match. I have reported this to the Mod - as well as the fact that she is behind or at least involved with at least one of our recent trolls here. Same misconceptions; same IP.
PD, I will ask here that you cease emailing me. I wish you well truly, but have to say I hope you will stop using others as diversions from finding better self-esteem. I choose not to be around the negativity. I agree with SRT - we are all adults. No one makes anyone do anything... and in the end, the most important thing is that a person likes and respects his or her self.
From wikipedia.com:
* "Projection is the opposite defence mechanism to identification. We project our own unpleasant feelings onto someone else and blame them for having thoughts that we really have."
* "A defense mechanism in which the individual attributes to other people impulses and traits that he himself has but cannot accept. It is especially likely to occur when the person lacks insight into his own impulses and traits."
* "Attributing one's own undesirable traits to other people or agencies."
* "The individual perceives in others the motive he denies having himself. Thus the cheat is sure that everyone else is dishonest."
* "An individual who possesses malicious characteristics, but who is unwilling to perceive himself as an antagonist, convinces himself that his opponent feels and would act the same way."
May I ask how would you know if her ip matches a troll?
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Exceptional Pluba
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And if it does why isn't she banned?
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SRT I place this here because those that I wanted to read this comes here first!
you was not in the pt's that I was in. so I guess you would not had known how certain members acted. "THEY" know who they are. when a person does talk to the out cast they are also conceider an out cast. So don't say a person can talk to whom they like because you know what I have seen what members on here did to members they cast aside. who stab who in the back hmm lets see because I choose to not belittle Kinzel or hike up a bashing thread that was made about kinzel. I am a back stabber? that is a laugh. because I choose to not agree with DC. DC called me a back stabber how rich . what was so detrimental to DC that she claimed I caused? was it because I stood up and said to DC hey if you going to be the co mod or help run the board so there are no real issues with the bashing or rules being broken, SRT you know the rules that the REAL MOD made. they are for all not just the ones DC dislikes.Please do me a favor SRT you don't know what you are talking about. So please take you teeth out my leg I am tired of you trying to feed off me . |
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PD, good for you for getting that off your chest. I have never been involved in the behind the scenes chats and for good reason, I knew some of the crowd and how things would turn out.
If you cant say something on the board for all to see, then usually its not worth saying at all. And Mod, I think you should pull your co-moderators and actually hire your work out to people who have no interaction with the forums. |
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PD, I sent you a PT.
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HemiBulldogs thank you. This has been on my mind every since the issue began .Sorry if it is long or drawn out I just had to say it. I am sure by the time I get on the board (if I still can) it will be made out it was all my fault again. but again that ok.
I am hoping for the best. I am sure it will all wash out in the rain .As my Granny use to said . I do know that people on the internet are not like real friends. unless you knew them outside the internet world. well I take that back. I have spoke many times to 1 nice person on and off this site. what I should say is this. I should not expect real friendships on the net. and when you do find a friend respect them and pray they respect you . oh I wanted to add HemiBulldogs you really did not have to repost my comment. I would not had edited it unless I seen something wrong or an error in spelling and I catch it.TG you have your reply back |
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Im glad you figured out who your real friends are PD. I have to say, a breeders forum is probably not a very good place to try to make friends. Breeders are a very catty bunch.
Now maybe a meetup forum where groups of people with like interests get together and meet would be a good place to make friends and mingle. Just a suggestion. |
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I hope everything works out for you PD you always been a friend to me. MM
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Good for you for stating how you feel. "Friends" like that are not really your friends. I agree that the mod should hire outside people with no connection here to be co-mods. |
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Maddie I am sorry if you thought I did not consider you a friend .You and I talk and cut a rug when we are together. I hope you forgive me
I was tired and worn out when I wrote this. but you are a friend
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I never thought that for a minute. I just wanted to support you and your post. MM
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PD what you are saying is very true. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not following other people's ways.
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MM I just wanted to clear it up because I don't want to purposely hurt anyones feels I love thumper MM. DD you know you and I don't get along but I'm glad that you do undstand what I am saying or trying to say. I want to thank those that said some supportive things concerning this topic.
HemiBulldogs you know When I first came. I thought that if you meet people that have the same interest as you, you might gain friends. I was not aware that people could and would be catty on the net (dumb me I guess) you have to remember I was new to that cat world (showing and Breeding) I mean. I join this place to get info and learn some things (cat issues wise). I know when I first came I was not the greatest but I do believe I calm down and grew up some. but it seemed this forum or certain people did not grew with me. I hope I am not confusing you with what I said. so me joining a talk just to chit chat was not what I was looking for. I could do that with yahoo messager because they have people chat boards |
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SRT how am I playing victim? it seems by your statement that I should not go against the grain( or the powers to be) and I should just allow whatever or whomever to said what they want or do to me what they want. without saying a word. let me tell you this, if you was being talk about behind your back because you don't go with the flow and you found this out. I am sure you would not be sitting still and being quiet. No I am not a victim nor is the person you are defending. As I said you are only seeing partial pictures and not whole scope of the issue. big difference is I did not run to people and say this person betray me or say remaining their friend would be detrimental to me. I know that I am the least like person at this time, because of what you was told . if you knew the full issue you might not had even reply this topic. point is I did not post this Topic to have you or the others to bash me because I wanted my feeling to be know since I am sure the other party pt everyone and told her version.
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Good for you PD. You said what I am sure many would like to say. I have to say I am not on either "side", though I visit both forums. What you said about ganging up definately shows up on both "sides".
I am sure that will put me on everyones bad side LOL, but I do like to come here and read when I am not working. I don't post often but there are some good things to learn at both forums. |
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Sorry Sarah, but you are wrong. The way it works around here is that if you don't agree with what certain people do to other people on here then you are the bad guy and get tormented. It happened to me. I stood up for what I believed in and was jumped because I didn't go along with the flow. |
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I apologize to all in advance for adding to this thread on Breeder's as I agree it is better suited to Open or elsewhere. PD, I know you may feel like emailing me with a new email account of your own was doing me a favor. I need to address a couple of things. First, your hypotheses are far off the mark, so much so that I think maybe you could write for the Lifetime Channel as a better use of your time. Secondly, I have been cordial to you. But, what I see lately is the biggest case or projection I think I have ever witnessed. It is YOU who acts like you have a vendetta any time someone dares to disagree with your opinion. Third, you had to stalk two of my websites to come up with my other email address. (That's right folks; she has gone so far on this latest bout as to do this...) The IP's from my sites and from those two emails match. I have reported this to the Mod - as well as the fact that she is behind or at least involved with at least one of our recent trolls here. Same misconceptions; same IP. PD, I will ask here that you cease emailing me. I wish you well truly, but have to say I hope you will stop using others as diversions from finding better self-esteem. I choose not to be around the negativity. I agree with SRT - we are all adults. No one makes anyone do anything... and in the end, the most important thing is that a person likes and respects his or her self. From wikipedia.com: * "Projection is the opposite defence mechanism to identification. We project our own unpleasant feelings onto someone else and blame them for having thoughts that we really have." * "A defense mechanism in which the individual attributes to other people impulses and traits that he himself has but cannot accept. It is especially likely to occur when the person lacks insight into his own impulses and traits." * "Attributing one's own undesirable traits to other people or agencies." * "The individual perceives in others the motive he denies having himself. Thus the cheat is sure that everyone else is dishonest." * "An individual who possesses malicious characteristics, but who is unwilling to perceive himself as an antagonist, convinces himself that his opponent feels and would act the same way." "Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." -- Disraeli |
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And if it does why isn't she banned?
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