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Pluba Understudy |
Hi,
It's okay we all have bad times in our lives...You just got to stick your head up high and move through it all. "He who angers you, conquers you!"  |
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Grand Pluba |
if you are legit, do you think he is hurting your daughter? If so, and i am not judging, how can you help her if you are drunk? as a parent you have to stay strong for your child. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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| <For the sake of the baby>
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That's not too bright on your part, considering that drinking can cause birth defects in your unborn child. Rethink your situation, will you? |
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Good Pluba |
Are you pregnant?
If you even have the slightest hint that your ex may be doing something inexcusable to that child, and you still let her go there then you are ALSO responsible. It is YOUR job to protect her. If you slightly even think that this child is being hurt....contact the authorities, have her examined, and press charges if necessary. Please, I am begging you. "If you can't change your mind are you sure that you still have one"? |
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Pluba Freshman |
She didn't say that she was pregnant. She said something about her child having to go with the child's father. Maybe it's a custody thing? I don't know, but with reading the post, there was nothing mentioned about being pregnant. Sassy Removed original siggy line to appease two of our resident infants on these boards. |
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| <For the sake of the baby>
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She is pregnant. She need not write it here for all to see, but she needs to not drink at this time in her life. She already has one child and the second is on it's way. I understand the agony and the frustration, but if a child is in danger, something should be done about it. The unborn child is in another form of danger. Sassy, you don't know everything. |
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Pluba Understudy |
Hey,
If she is pregnant I hope she chooses not to drink anymore...Please think of your unborn child and the one you already have...You will be in my prayers. "He who angers you, conquers you!" |
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| <Back to defend myself>
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Read the post. I am NOT pregnant. Look at what I put in bold so you can see WHY I chose to drink. It's obvious that I was upset because my 2 year old had to go with her father. When she goes with him, she never knows where she'll be sleeping at night. It could be anywhere because this man does not know how to provide structure for such a young child. This whole thing is because of a custody issue. I don't drink in front of my kids and I don't do anything in front of them that would make me a bad mother. I give them love, guidance, patience and when they are misbehaving, I redirect them to something else. Plain and simple, my daughter's dad doesn't want to pay child support. He only wants her because of this reason. She has lived with me all her life and now, suddenly he wants to change that because he will have to pay close to a grand for support. I got upset because of the things he has done in the past, and because of her behavior every time she comes back home. I just needed an evening where I could forget. I'm sure you all have done that in your life. No need to judge me because I had a designated driver, and wanted to take my mind off of things. Again, I am NOT pregnant. When I was pregnant with my kids, I didn't smoke, drink or do anything else that would place them in harms way. I am appalled that you would all incinuate that I drank because I was pregnant, when my original post doesn't even say anything about me being pregnant. Jeez, a person can't even come to this board with out people twisting and injecting words that aren't even there to begin with. |
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Pluba Understudy |
Hey,
I'm sorry I didn't try to twist your words around...I didn't know if you were pregnant or not...I was just giving my opinion for anyone who is pregnant and drinks...I will still keep you in my prayers...I hope everything works out for the better...Good luck! "He who angers you, conquers you!" |
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Exceptional Pluba |
Perhaps you need to put down the nippy yourself and re-read that post. No where does she state she's pregnant. She's talking about her daughter going away with her father and it upsets her.  ***************** "Fall in love with a MINI..... everything else is just a TOY."    |
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Exceptional Pluba |
Did you get all that out of this post? Or do you know the person who wrote it? ***************** "Fall in love with a MINI..... everything else is just a TOY." |
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Grand Pluba |
Yep, that's the way I read it also.
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Pluba Freshman |
I didn't say I know everything, but I DO know how to read a post and not misconstrue it when I respond to it, unlike you. You say I don't know everything? Big deal. I never claimed to know everything, so your statement proves nothing, BONS. At least I can post my responses under my own real registered name. Sassy Removed original siggy line to appease two of our resident infants on these boards. |
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Almost Grand Pluba |
Wrong!!!!!!!!!! You think everyone is me. This is the first time I have responded to this thread. Blame your personal troll on someone else, dear, because it's not me. "Talk sense to a fool and he calls you foolish" Euripides |
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Grand Pluba |
I am glad the original poster came back to clarify. Quite frankly you sound like a know it all busy body. Her post led no clues that she was pregnant....and your casting judgement on someone who is in true need of some good advice is despicable. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
I have not put words in your mouth. I have asked if you were pregnant because it was mentioned in the post before mine. I will make no apologies for my comments or concern. THe way that you have worded it here is that you were concerned that " you couldn't stand what he might be doing to her". To me this implies more than not having a stable place to stay. This is where my concerns were branched from. I am not quick to judge but I am quick to defend an innocent child. I MAKE NO APOLOGIES FOR THIS!!! If this were not the case why was it worded in such a way? It is your poor choices in wording that got you in trouble here with me! "If you can't change your mind are you sure that you still have one"? |
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Grand Pluba |
I might be wrong N2Bostons, but i think her post was more directed toward that person who assumed they knew she was pregnant right now. that post from that person was pretty arrogant and would incite defensiveness from anyone. Maybe I am wrong...I just think that was the post she was referring to. But regardless..to the original poster. All of us here urge you to do everything in your power to make sure your baby is safe when going to her father's. I konw it is frustrating as hell when teh courts tell you that you HAVE to let her go. Just keep being diligent on this. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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| <Back to defend myself>
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Okay, here's the deal. I have called Children and Youth Services several times about his living situation. He said he has a bed for her at his mom's house, BUT what my daughter says to me is entirely different. She says he lives with his friends at their house. She also said to me that she sleeps with her daddy. Now, I have been taking her to see a child psychiatrist and she goes back on monday. I will let that person know about what I was told and let her take it from there. Yes, I said I was concerned. I still am. I have done everything I can do, which includes getting my daughter the help I think she needs and getting her into therapy. Short of running with her (which would be stupid), my hands are tied.
I wish people would quit bashing me for this because I am trying to do everything I can, short of violating a court order. I'm not stupid but there is only so much I can do. I don't badmouth her father and I don't "coach" her into saying or thinking things. I don't involve her in what are adult problems and I don't let her see me cry. I'm a good mother and I do what I think is right for my child. So I got drunk ONE night, because for me, it was a way to TEMPORARILY forget about my problems for the night. Why are you condemming me for this? Thanks for comming to my defense Doxie, I really appreciate that. To those who are trying to flame me, try to have a little more compassion and less judgement before you yell at me for something you know nothing about. |
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| <Passion Wolf>
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I am sorry that you are having so much trouble in your life. I want you to know that you need not worry about what faceless people say to you on this forum. I am hoping that you wont have to go through this for long . I will keep you in my prayers .
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