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| <captain980>
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i dont think i have the answer, but by all means you have already come to grips with your problen... but hav eyou really come to grips with it or is this another form of lip service ? if not to anybody else as ussual.. this time its lip service to yourself.... now you need to step away for aa second and realize you finish many things, example... when you brush your teeth... obviously you have finished... eating.. you eat till you are nourished.. somewhere in here and other parts of your lif eyou are a finisher.. however when it comes to things that have seemingly less gain you are less motivated.. at this point in time you have to decide to motivate your self....as the rest of us do... with the personal satisfaction of a job complete for the present...
the real problem i see here is that somewhere you are lying to yourself.. somewhere in your head lies an issue ! where ? you ask i dont know whether itstems from something in your child hood or something in you adult life its your problen and its in your head.... my real definition for you today is not that you have a problen but you are making a mistake.. the problem was that you did not complete tasks.... the mistake is that you dont correct it.. its a realization followed by an action , not an understanding followed by lip service to your self.... example in life when you are lost in the car really you are lost when you think you know where you are and have not come to awares that you are incorrect! you stop being lost when you realize that where you are no longer corolates with your present location.. now.. right NOW you are found.. and you have an obligation to start correcting it.. not simply walking in circles stating that you are lost woh is you.. but to take forward action... back to your mistake.. now it takes action.. once you understand this issue is in your life you hav eto take a positive step and change it one by one.. and at the point in time when you dont ... that is a mistake not a problem.. a problem needs solving.. and a mistake needs correcting... good luck... |
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| <Leslie>
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captain980
Thank you for your help on this. |
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Exceptional Pluba |
I used to have some real problems along those lines.
What I did was make the projects smaller, or break them down into parts that you can get done. Instead of cleaning the entire entertainment system, just clean one shelf. Instead of doing ALL the laundry, do one load - but do that load completely and put it away. Instead of being completely overwhelmed by everything that needs to be done, just do the small tasks and the things will get done. -~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- -~ Mimi -~-~ http://am-pugs.com -~-~ "When we stop learning we die." -~ -~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- |
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Good Pluba |
My Mother has a heart condition that suddenly worsened a few years back. For a while she couldn't do anything.
After she got better, she still couldn't do much at one time. She's always been an active person and an avid gardener and she missed her garden and flowers and plants terribly. She incorporated the 10 minute system as she calls it. She could only work on her garden for 10 minutes and that was the second love of her life, so she decided that 10 minutes was better than no minutes. At first it was only 10 minutes per day. Then it became 10 minutes twice a day, and so on and so on. Eventually she could spend 10 minutes out of every hour working on her garden. Then she started adding minutes each time without overdoing it. After that for a while and over the course of probably 5 years of her life, she can now spend an hour in her garden if it isn't too hot outside. Baby steps as I've heard people refer to. Like AmPugs said, do one piece at a time. It's not how much you do, it's the fact that you are continuous/diligent/determined. I once worked with a man who never complained about his job (rarity) and I'd ask him, 'hey Roy, are you working hard today?' His reply was always the same, 'never hard, just steady.' He was never behind in his work, but he didn't get in a big hurry either to get it done. There's always the reward system. Treat yourself like a kid who did his chores and you get a reward when it's 100% done and only when it's completed. Maybe it's your approach or your routine. You could be bored, in a rut--does it all seem so mundane to you. Example: why make the bed if it's just going to get messed up again? If that's how you feel, you need to "change" your approach. If you get up and do the same things every morning, change one of them. If you always do the laundry on Saturday, do it on Thursday--something like that. Always drive the same way to work? take a detour. Go in early. Change your lunchtime routine. Change only takes a second--it's the making up your mind to change that can take a lifetime. Good luck!! Hope some of these ideas that everyone put across help you find your momentum. |
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| <Passion Wolf>
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Mr. Pit Bull what makes you so wise ?
To be or not to be. that is the true question http://www.purfectdreamcattery.com/purfect_dream_home_001.htm |
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lol
are you poking fun at me, PD?  |
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| <Passion Wolf>
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No I do think you are wise
To be or not to be. that is the true question http://www.purfectdreamcattery.com/purfect_dream_home_001.htm |
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Leslie, let me say that I have had the same experience, not EXACTLY THE SAME, you understand but VERY similar. I have always worked as an RN and had my very first job as a 6 year-old baby-sitting a BABY!!! I have had 2 jobs at the same time for much of my life..that is UNTIL I broke my back in a fall in my backyard!!! I have had multiple surgeries and am now living with an implant in my spine to keep me on my feet and off of narcotics.
Why am I telling you all this? Well, I have been disabled since 1998( I think that is correct) and have had to make major adjustments in my activity level...I felt very much as you say you do. I now set one goal each day to complete and feel okay when I finish it...anything else I get done is candy and every day I accomplish my goal and maybe another 1-2-or3...so what if I don't finish everything I want to??? There is always tomorrow. Set a goal, say finish the most important task on the first day...next day, do the next important one and maybe another smaller one. And, do as Mr. pit bull's mom did. Work up to a higher level of activity. I WOULD ALSO SUGGEST THAT YOU BE EVALUATED FOR DEPRESSION AND/OR ATTENTION DISORDERS. Have you have a medical evaluation?? Of course, you can choose not to do anything other than say "I gotta do something"..(been there done that too)..Hopefully this is the first step in regaining your self esteem and respect. Take back your life, deal with whatever baggage you have brought from childhood and say "I AM A GOOD PERSON! I AM A GOOD PERSON!" And say it often...no one can take "you" away from "YOU" so start YOUR life today!!! ONLY YOU CAN LIVE IT!!!! |
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| <Bette>
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That's very good advice, Whisper Still.
I think I'll borrow it for myself.  Too many times I find myself sitting on the sidelines watching life sort of just pass me by. I think it does have a lot to do with old baggage I need to get rid of. I hadn't thought of that. |
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Pluba Freshman |
Bette, I came from VERY poor and humble beginnings...you know, the typical Appalachian youngun with not enough to eat, no bed in which to sleep, hand-me-down clothes that never fit!...My secret was EDUCATION!!! and get the heck out of the mountains that I hated..
I worked at a large convention center as the nurse and had to co-ordinate med. staff for everyone from the PRES..to the hell-fire preaching whatchamacallits! and never felt like I was anything but their equal or better. Man, could I put on the dog when I had to. My motto was, and this sounds sexist but it is MY philosophy "They aren't special. They put their pants on one leg at a time" Works like a charm for me still... Remember, every one of you are such unique individuals and no one else can be that as well as you!" |
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Leslie, please register and we can PT if you are interested.....also, Bette. I am not an on-line shrink but do have some insights to share with y'all if you need to vent or just chat....
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Exceptional Pluba |
Whisper still - The RN is showing. I hope they do contact you - you give good advice.
-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- -~ Mimi -~-~ http://am-pugs.com -~-~ "When we stop learning we die." -~ -~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- |
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Pluba Freshman |
AmPugs, thanx for your comments...I would be so happy if just one person benefitted from this board. Who knows, we seem to get into such negative discussions about breeding and such, and wouldn't it be great to find that maybe we can positively impact a life on this side of the board?
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Exceptional Pluba |
Whisper still - I may have burned out, but I use a lot of the stuff I learned here. Sometimes I think I help a little - on all sorts of things - if only from seeing the problem from a different perspective.
-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- -~ Mimi -~-~ http://am-pugs.com -~-~ "When we stop learning we die." -~ -~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~- |
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AmPugs, Your by-line says it all!! I think that every day that I do not learn something or share what I have learned is a day without sunshine in my life. I LOVE science, medicine, and mechanical things. With those interests, it really is easy to learn a "new" thingamy....I have also learned that truth and facts are totally different beings and a search for the truth is not necessarily a search for the "facts"....I am not referring to anything on here just a general statement about how I see things....and every incident and situation can be turned into a learnng experience if we can look at them "from a different perspective"..
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