I badly need help and advice. My 21 year old daughter, who has a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship, has moved in with a 20 year old kid who has a SERIOUS marijuana habit. She is pregnant by him, their baby is due in 4 weeks. This guy is unemployed right now, me and my mom are helping my daughter and grandchild, but whatever we do for them, helps this dope addict as well. My daughter does not smoke it and has never associated with thos ewho did. Now, she says she love shim and is not going to give him up or insist he quit. When I attempt to discuss it with her, she tells me it is "none of my business". I am not talking about just a little bit of marijuana here, I am talking all day everyday, and when he doe shave a job, he take sit with him and smokes it on breaks. My daughter denies it, but I am sure he is smoking it in front of her child. I am deeply concerned about my granddaughter and future grandson, that smoke can certainly not be good for a newborn baby. Please advise me. Do I have every right to be concerned, or am I justt an "intefereing grandma"? Oh, going to his family would do no good, they all smoke it.
I do think you have every right to be concerned, but I really don't think there is anything you can do about it as they are both adults. If you think he is smoking it in front of your grandchild, then maybe you can contact child protective services and see if they can offer any advice. Does he deal it also? If so, that could really put your daughter and grandchild in a bad postition if anything were to happen. She would also be held accountable since she knowingly let her daughter be around it. I know I don't really have any answers for you, but maybe someone else will. Good luck.
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quote:Originally posted by Linda Adams: I badly need help and advice. My 21 year old daughter, who has a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship, has moved in with a 20 year old kid who has a SERIOUS marijuana habit. She is pregnant by him, their baby is due in 4 weeks. This guy is unemployed right now, me and my mom are helping my daughter and grandchild, but whatever we do for them, helps this dope addict as well. My daughter does not smoke it and has never associated with thos ewho did. Now, she says she love shim and is not going to give him up or insist he quit. When I attempt to discuss it with her, she tells me it is "none of my business". I am not talking about just a little bit of marijuana here, I am talking all day everyday, and when he doe shave a job, he take sit with him and smokes it on breaks. My daughter denies it, but I am sure he is smoking it in front of her child. I am deeply concerned about my granddaughter and future grandson, that smoke can certainly not be good for a newborn baby. Please advise me. Do I have every right to be concerned, or am I justt an "intefereing grandma"? Oh, going to his family would do no good, they all smoke it.
You might not want to hear this, but your daughter is probably smoking it too. That's why she says it's none of your business.
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I would personally stop giving her the money. Maybe then she'd make her new guy stop spending all the money on pot. Even if he gets it for free, she'll soon get sick of having to work while he sits on his *** all day smoking pot. I mean, how does she expect to make money while she's in the hospital? The only problem is that then the b/f might START dealing if he doesn't already. I say that maybe you should stop with the money and if it gets worse or doesn't improve, call child services.
Call child services, no use in waiting to see waht will happen. The smoke isn't healthy for the children, and they don't need to be brought up in an environment where that is "acceptable," because it isn't.
Some may say like parents smoking cigarettes in front of children, which I also disagree with, but cigarettes are legal. Tobacco is grown here in the US. Where Marijuana is grown all over the place, but most generally in poor countries, and this habit supports crime and drug lords in these countries, a modern form of slavery.
There are a lot of angles to look at it from, and either way it's not healthy for the kids, who, I'm sure are your main concern.
I'm also sorry to say, I imagine that your daughter is smoking it as well, she may not be, which I hope not, but it is your business if you are supporting them.
Not a good thing but it could be worse. I would stop give $$ but bring her food, clothes and such. If you call CS you may as well be pushing her away and if she isn't smoking herself she'll never forgive you for it. Does she admit that he smokes reefer? If so don't get all panky on her but look her kindly in the eyes and say something like "dear heart he could get your babies taken"
"here Marijuana is grown all over the place, but most generally in poor countries, and this habit supports crime and drug lords in these countries, a modern form of slavery."
hate to be a smartass BUT....almost everything i've ever smoked has been grown here....most of it comes out of kentucky, theyre like the pot capital...and lots of people just grow it in their home...i really don't think pot supports the crime and terror like people think it does....and yes, i do know what i'm talkinga bout, i was constantly high for about six months straight...
