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Here are some out of the ordinary Ideas for shy men. I would like to know what youi think of them.
To strain oneself/to make an effort Shy people often think that they are not worth very much, that they can`t achieve anything in life. They have a low Self-worth, while most people have a rather high self-worth from birth. To increase the self worth, one has to strain oneself in order to prove to oneself that one is actually worth something, able to achieve something. Trying to change this belief (that one is worth nothing) by positive thinking/trying to change one`s attitude doesn`t seem to work. It didn`t work for me in any case. What did work in my case was to strenghthen the muscles. This may sound strange, but if you have weak muscles and are of the intellectual kind, then it is definitely an effort to streghthen the muscles, while thinking just comes naturally, with no effort. Strengthening the muscles of the base of the body is the most important thing, especially if you have a hollow back/problems in the lumbar area, as I did. It is very hard to change a hollow back to normality, you have to tense the (this may sound silly) abdomen and buttock muscles a lot of time, for months and months. But you get a big reward: a lot more self –worth and less health risks. If your muscles are already strong enough, you have to look somewehre else in your life to see where an effort would be useful and necessary. Most women don`t want to be with men with low self worth, even if they are as nice as shy men are, because self worth is like the base of the character, without it you are litterally not worth much. So the motivation for shy men to raise their self-worth should be to be “worthful” enough to deserve the love/appreciation of women. Crying Shy people often suffer a lot from separations (from people they love or places they love, like the home town) because they have such a big heart. Sadness accumulates in them, often without them noticing. The key is to express sadness. To be depressed is not to express sadness, it is to be sad. To express sadness is to cry. If you are very sad, you need to cry a lot, and if you haven`t cried for a lot time, you need to cry a whole lot. One needs to look in one´s life for events that might have caused sadness (separations). Even if it is something that happened 10 years ago it still can make you sad, especially if you don`t cry often about it. If you leave your home town you loved above anything in the world, then nothing (except returning) can remove this cause of sadness. You can only take it take it out, express it, but with time it will come again and you need to cry again. Crying relieves a lot and can reduce the accumulation of sadness because of a given event. If you cry regularly, you can feel happy anyway because the sadness inside remains at a low level. Some sadness inside is necessary to feel compassion to fellow persons. To cry you need to look at the thing that makes you sad. One should make a list of all separations (of people and places you love and don`t see regularly). If it is your sick grandmother (you have to test different things and see what makes you cry) then visualize her in all her suffering or listen to a song of your childhood when you where at your grandmothers (sad songs are especially good to cry,, like ”The sound of silence”). If you miss your home town, look at a video of your street, your old home, … This is needed because you need to reach out for your subconsciuos in order to cry, you just can`t make it happen with your consciuos will alone. Shy men should cry alone because they don`t need the compassion of anyone. They are made to offer compassion for other people, especially sad women (embrace them without kissing when they cry). Here is a link if you wantt to read more details about this: http://www.geocities.com/marksz98/shyness2.htm What do you think of these ideas? |
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