Did anyone have a good childhood. Mine was kind of crappy. We didnt do much. Am I alone or does everyone here wish they could do their childhood over again?
Hey Haley. You are definitely not alone. My childhood may have not been great all of the time, but I don't think I would want to do it over again. All of the things I experienced as a child, shaped me into the person I am now. Besides, think of how oppressed most of us felt as children!
If your only regret is that you didn't do much as a child, try to change that as an adult. We weren't poor, but my parents worked hard to get us a nice house in the country. Because of that nice house, many people thought we were rich. But our vacations consisted of camping and fishing. I loved it and couldn't have been happier, but my brother definitely wished for city life and action.
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we all wish we had rewind and re-record on our little vcr's of our childhood's, wouldn't that be grand? lol Seriously now, you have to pick and choose what to recall from your childhood--choose only the positive and good things and if you have to write them down and reread them several times to convince yourself, then by all means do so. We got the opportunity to grow up basically and we must be thankful for the life we have been given. As children, we may not have been able to make decisions to change our lives or situations, but as adults we do and it's up to you to live well. Our childhoods need not follow us around the rest of our lives. Keep the happy memories and carry on and live each day to the fullest. Remember you are only going to have this day once in your lifetime, you wouldn't want to remember it as pining about a lousy childhood, now would you? I wouldn't and I do try no to dwell on things that might cause me emotional upset because we all have been hurt enough and we don't need to hurt ourselves anymore. Mostly try to think about all the things you have to be grateful for right now and not what you have missed out on, okay.
I have to say that I was lucky and had a wonderful childhood. It wasn't perfect, but nothing is perfect. My parents loved us very much and let us know that we were loved. My Mother did not work outside the home until I was in high school. She had me in so many programs - GAs, Girl Scouts, Jr. Garden Club, Drama Club, the list goes on and on. But it was so much fun. I grew up in a very small town where everyone knew everyone else. If you went to Church there was only one Church for each denomination - so you had to know everyone in Church, school, etc. Mother cooked and sewed. She enterred us in fashion shows and made matching outfits for my dolls.
My parents were very frugal with money. Though my mother stayed home, we had a beautiful home and many people thought we were wealthier than we were. We took nice vacations, were well clothed, etc. But - we never ate out in restaurants, Mother made most of our clothes, sweets (cookies, candy, and sodas) were almost never purchased.
My brothers and I were brought up in Church and were very well mannered. I have no real regrets. I only wish I had been as strict with my children and not given into the commercial greed. Where my parents were frugal, my husband and I were extravagant with our sons. My parents were much wiser.
