I NEED SOME ADVICE FAST!!! - Topic The People of Pluba Land

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Who said anything about kids? the couples involved are all over the age of 50!(yes older people have sex) anyway how would being sterile keep people from having sex?
And Kensile are whoever you are? I have a feeling you have made a mistake or two in your life. Sometimes people are needy and lost and turn to people for help (much like homesless puppies) and in turn find the very people who claim to want to help them the Real "lost souls".

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I hope you were joking?

And telling her to get spayed was not very nice. This is a Psychologist Forum....in other words, check the judgements at the door.[/QUOTE]

Thanks Doxiechick for being so real.... you seem like a good friend to have.

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Telling someone to get spayed/fixed is just plain stupid. That would give someone even more reason to cheat, hence, no babies.

C'mon Kinzel's, we all know the story on you. You have no right to be such an as-s to this person just because they remind you of yourself.

And their situation is very much different than yours. You have "issues" and you should seek counseling, Kinzel's.

For the person who wanted advice, the best thing is to forgive yourself and move on. You can't cry over spilled milk. Just don't make the same mistake again.

Personally, I wouldn't tell his wife because it would only inflict harm on her. Of course if she suspected and outright asked you, then I would own up to it. That was what you asked advice about, so that's my thoughts on it.
I hope it all works out for you.

CrystalK

Grand Pluba

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To be honest, HE is actually more guilty. After all, HE is the one who is married, right? She isn't. Other than that, I agree with Kinzel's advice.

Well, guess she IS married. Went back and read the original post. They both should be neutered.

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Well trolls, or I'm sure its just one troll making up different names so as not to look alone here, GET OVER IT! Your posts make no sense , what would anything I've said have to do with me feeling quilty?
This is my last post to you because you are too scared to post under your real name!

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Doxiechick

Grand Pluba

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Sometimes people are needy and lost and turn to people for help (much like homesless puppies) and in turn find the very people who claim to want to help them the Real "lost souls".

Whomever said this, i agree. Kinzel's and others.

I tried to post an intelligent and caring response because this person sounded as if they knew they made a mistake and did so during a very trying period in their lives. It is easy to throw stones.

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How would you like to be married to someone and have a family with them only to find out some chick on the side is aving your childrens brother/sister?

I would put the blame on MY SPOUSE, as when a man or woman wants to cheat they will always find a willing partner. I think in these cases one needs to put the blame on their partner as he or she did the betraying. And for the person they cheated with, it is up to their partner to decide how they want to punish the act.

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Originally posted by Doxiechick:
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Sometimes people are needy and lost and turn to people for help (much like homesless puppies) and in turn find the very people who claim to want to help them the Real "lost souls".

Whomever said this, i agree. Kinzel's and others.

I tried to post an intelligent and caring response because this person sounded as if they knew they made a mistake and did so during a very trying period in their lives. It is easy to throw stones.

That makes no sense, but o.k.!

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Doxiechick

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Not sure why it makes no sense Kinzel. I was saying sometimes people are lost and do the wrong thing, but at some point want to atone for it.

That seems pretty straight forward to me. If you can't forgive, you can't be forgiven. Plain and simple.

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You made perfect sense Doxiechick. That Kinzel is just shallow and opens her big yapper just to hear herself I think?

Nobodys perfect.... and what we believe we are today we might feel very different about in the future.

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Originally posted by Kinzel's:
Well trolls, or I'm sure its just one troll making up different names so as not to look alone here, GET OVER IT! Your posts make no sense , what would anything I've said have to do with me feeling quilty?
This is my last post to you because you are too scared to post under your real name!

Shut your trap! You're the STUPID one here and these people are not trolls, just smarter than YOU!

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Originally posted by CrystalK:
To be honest, HE is actually more guilty. After all, HE is the one who is married, right? She isn't. Other than that, I agree with Kinzel's advice.

Well, guess she IS married. Went back and read the original post. They both should be neutered.

Then take your own advice, you and DEWEY!! aka Kinzel's crap.

CrystalK

Grand Pluba

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I did, troll. I've been "neutered" now for about 20 years. Sorry, adultry gets no sympathy from me.

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Originally posted by Doxiechick:
Not sure why it makes no sense Kinzel. I was saying sometimes people are lost and do the wrong thing, but at some point want to atone for it.

That seems pretty straight forward to me. If you can't forgive, you can't be forgiven. Plain and simple.

I'm all about forgiving Doxie, she didn't seem too sorry for what she did, she just wanted to tell the wife!
And what I didn't understand is , the topic of the thread you chose to copy and reply to was saying something about me feeling quilty for something which is why they say I responded the way I did.
I have no sympathy for people who go out of their way to screw up their lives as well as others. I do however feel sorry for the wife of the cheating husband, the husband of the cheating wife, and anyone else who's lives will change and self-esteem will be lowered over people acting like animals and jumping on whoever they want when they feel their in heat!

Self control and morals needs to be talked about more than forgiving and coddeling people who make selfish decisions that end up bitting them in the ***.

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I never read anything about her wanting sympathy?
And there is four sides to this story. Why do you assume the other spouses are so innocent?
Kinzel you seem very bitter, or maybe just very Naive? or just plain stupid.... yeah I vote for the later. Kinzel is plain Stupid.

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Kinzel's seems to be suffering from guilt issues.
It sounds like Kinzel's has been there, done that. Whether she was on the recieving end or not, she has to have experienced one or the other to respond that way.

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Very true Doc Phil.... you are a man of true wisdom. I still think Dewey is just plain dumb too tho!

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Originally posted by CrystalK:
I did, troll. I've been "neutered" now for about 20 years. Sorry, adultry gets no sympathy from me.

Crystal, really? Was that painful? I have heard its not a big deal, but I don't think any kind of surgery no matter how small could be painless.

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CrystalK

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Nope, not at all Kinzel's. The incision was only about an inch long and I can't even see it today. But I had it done while still in the hospital after my 3rd baby, so the pain I had with the tubal was very minor compared to the other "wound" I had.

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