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Newba Pluba |
hi there i need help my wife left me two mts ago and she is playing mind games ,she will not talk to me at all,she just said, i can't talk to you ,are, i will not talk to him, she left me alone and i have bipolar disorder no one but me at the house i fell an cut my head opened, went to the hospital e.r. my kid showed up but not my wife,the kids say dad, mom will'nt talk to you at this time i can't call her at work,or the place she is staying at,she just come's up with new demand, first it was,get well,then stop your smoking,then you must forget what has happened in the past,then our your eyes opened,then have you learned your lesson, man this gal is driving me nuts help
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Exceptional Pluba |
Dude , forget the wife and get a fish.
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Good Pluba |
I agree with CB not much compassion there. Life is to short. Work on getting healthy thats whats most important. Good Luck MM
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Newba Pluba |
i don't like fish, i don't like my wife,no compassion at all,, you got that right,to demanding also,and my kid's well there you go. i'll dump the wife and get a, ? ,get healhy, yes i will..
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Good Pluba |
... you no got enuff boat's to keep wife happy? Git back to wok n by super ninja hampster to keep you not lonely.
Good one guys. |
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Very Good Pluba |
I know this is over a month old, but, Izzy, I also have Bi-Polar. My fiance and I get into fights over the STUPIDEST things sometimes. We fight about who is going to drive the car, how fast they should go, where to put the deodorant when it's not in use, who's going to shower first, and how long, what shampoo or conditioner we get, how long we stay at the grocery store, who's going to clean up the dog shit (which, I must add, it's ALWAYS ME!), etc. I mean, there's even stupider shit that we fight over, but fortunately, he's very forgiving towards me. He may scream back at me when I'm being manic, but once I come back down, he's just as kind and gentle as ever. (He knows better than to try to kiss ass when I'm manic, lol.) Your marriage may be down the drain too far, but either way, if you decide to get back together some how, you have to have everything out on the table. She has to understand that it's NOT your fault that you have behavioral swings. Go to the psychiatrist to get on meds, and get her (or your new g/f, whatever) come with you. If you try to explain that you do weird shit because of your Bi-polar, your SO most likely will NOT understand, and will assume that you're making excuses for yourself (trust me, I heard that one A LOT when I first started therapy). They have to hear it from an unbiased third party. The Dr has to explain it to them. Also, they need to know that any meds for Bi-Polar are NOT a miracle drug, and they will not make you love everyone and never have a bad day. My father was the one that took me when I got diagnosed. I was first diagnosed with seasonal depression, then when I started getting incredibly manic on Prozac, I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar. I HATED my dad's g/f, so we NEVER got along... My dad had my meds switched a few times because he wanted the meds to make me like that hag. I finally said enough and refused to take anymore, because it was really screwing with me to be changing meds like that all because I didn't like someone... If you can't find a way for your wife to come back, it's NOT the end of the world. Either way, I would possibly try writing her a letter and attaching a letter from the Dr explaining Bi-Polar and what it does, and in YOUR letter, tell her that you're going to start therapy for it (medicinal therapy), and that you would really like for her to come, because she may know your bi-polar better than you do... I know that when I'm manic, I'm never wrong, Michael is always in the wrong, so if/when I go back for therapy, he will be there to give the other side of the story, because I see it from a different way. Just ask her to come so that YOU can better understand, as well as your Dr. If you're still around, and actually read this, PM me anytime if you want to sit and chat with a fellow Bi-Polar.
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Good Pluba |
if ya don't like your wife, it's time to move on |
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Grand Pluba |
As a person who has dealt with a lot of people with bi polar and/or who suffer depression, yes it can make relationships HARD but not impossible.
I kind of get a bit perturbed over defeatist attitudes. The ones who FOUND success were the ones who didn't just say "hey I am bi polar, or hey i am depressed, what can i say" they actually made a lot of strides to improve the quality of their life thru meds, therapy and practicing self control. Even a bi polar person can practice self control with 50% meds and therapy and 50% of WANTING to do better. And before anyone points a finger at me to say how dare i speak this way i don't know what it is like, my father suffers from paranoid schyzophrenia and was diagnosed when i was very young, so I KNOW about living with mental illness. Trust me, having lived with him before as i was growing up I have SEEN and heard things that would make some of your heads spin. While I am compassionate to someone WITH a mental disorder, I am as or more compassionate and sympathetic to the people who have to live with a loved one who suffers. They are the true unsung heros, not normally the sufferer themselves because they don't always fully know what is going on thru a "spell" but their loved one is fully cognizant and going thru living hell trying to pick up the pieces. I am not real tolerant of anyone who uses their illness as a "badge of honor" of sorts either. I see that a lot. Anyone can have a relapse, and I reserve my compassion for those who have a relapse who were still TRYING very hard to maintain. Those who do little but gripe about their illness have a negative affect on me. Doesn't sound like your wife is driving you nuts, sounds like you are driving yourself nuts. When you get into therapy, enroll in an english composition course to improve your writing skills because they suck. You are an adult and I assume you live in America, there is no reason for someone not to seek out the many channels of education that are out there. And if you are not from America but choosing to communicate with other Americans, all the more reason to try to do it right. An ounce of self help is worth a pound of cure. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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