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Lately I have had a terrible fear of dying that i cannot seem to shake. It is so bad that i cant even sleep at night. Its even affecting my job.
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Grand Pluba |
It sounds like you need to seek a professional therapist. Doom and gloom thoughts like that can be the result of a disorder...General Anxiety Disorder, or Panic Disorder..either could be the cause.
No one here is really equipped to help you deal with something that is so serious it is interrupting your thoughts and your job. Talk this over with a professional. And good luck. We all go thru things at some point in our lives. Just know that dying is as natural as living, and should not be feared. Are you a spiritual or religious person? IF so, let your faith also help guide you out of this dark time. But definitely seek help from a counselor. With modern therapy techniques and modern medicine there is no need to suffer. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
I thought I was the only one!! I have been like this for about 9 years all of a sudden one night I was watching tv with my husband and I started freaking out. I sometimes will just freak out and start crying, I dont want to leave my kids EVER!! I cant talk about it because I get a pain in jy stomach and freak out it is so hard for me to write this now. Its very hard to live with! Sometimes when I am sleeping I will just wake up with my heart pounding and I will run around checking on my kids. Or I wake up sceaming. I try hard not to do it in front of my kids because I scare them but it has happened a few times and they just watch me and have no clue what is wrong. I cant go to anyone because I cant talk about it or I'll freak out. My Dad says go talk to our priest but I cant. SO SORRY you have to go hrough this too. |
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Grand Pluba |
VonL. my advice to the original poster stands for you too. Meds can control that panic. I know many people are against meds, but there are so many different things available to help that can suit you. You just have to find a good doctor. NO ONE wants to leave their kids. But you have to know that your reaction to fearing death may be abnormal. I am not judging - more I am trying to help!  Life is a celebration, so dwelling on death is very counterproductive.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
Im so sorry you are going through this Von ;( It really sounds like you are having panic attacks. I had my first panic attack about 11 years ago and its funny because I was also just calmly sitting there watching tv, and suddenly BAM, it came out of nowhere. Panic attacks are NOT fun, and anyone who has had one knows first-hand how it feels the moment you know you are going to suddenly die. Its like the feeling you would have as you fell through the air if you fell off a 100 foot cliff. The important thing for you to realise is that you are not alone. Tons of people have anxiety or full blown panic attacks, and no one really knows the reason for it. When you have one, make sure you tell yourself "everything will be fine and this will pass shortly", close your eyes, and take deep relaxing breaths. The best way for me to describe panic attacks is like your body going into a massive flight or fight reaction for no apparent reason. I havent had one for many years, so you can get over it. |
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Good Pluba |
That is exactly it!! I feel like running away, all of a sudden it hits and I want to RUN! But I know when its starting to come now so I calm myself down before it gets bad sometimes I cant an I do run but I dont go far. Sometimes I think its something in me telling me I need to do something or I will die soon because I have diabetes and high blood pressure so need to lose weight and exercise. |
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Grand Pluba |
VonL. that really does sound like panic disorder, and there are quite a few new meds out now that really do a great job of calming that down.
Or even behavoiral therapy could help you. There is a lot of help out there tho for Panic Disorder. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
DC is right. I suffer from anxiety (panic) attacks. If you ever need to talk just PT me. It is also hereditary unfortuantly.
 Saving just one animal won't change the world, but it will change HIS world! |
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Good Pluba |
I dont know of anyone in my family who has had a panic attack.
My Mom thinks she had one a long time ago though.Thanks guys. I dont want to be on medication but would be nice not to be like this. What kind of medication are you on for it? are there any side affects or do they make you feel weird? |
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Grand Pluba |
VONL i was on zoloft for two years. No side effects what so ever. I was no it for different reasons.....i have endometriosis and zoloft has been known to lesson the symptoms (female issue). It did work and a great side effect was it made me more calm. And i was on 100 mg's which is at the highest end of the dose.
I am not on it now, but no side effects. the meds today are so much better than yesteryear. you will be fine! and it is not ALWAYS heriditary (these types of disorders). It can be, but not always. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
They aren't always hereditary but yes it definatly can be. Medications, I was on Paxil until one weekend I slept the entire weekend couldn't even get off the couch. My doc changed meds to welbutrin, I loved it, I had so much energy, but I had to get off because I was at risk for seizures. There are alot of really good meds out right now thou. Some with minor side effects. You doc will find a med that would work for you. It really sin't a big deal to be on meds, it's just a chemical inbalance in your system. Honestly most people do have a chemical imbalance some just more than others. My doc said someday it will be nice when they have a test for chemical imbalances so they can tell the patient before the patient ever realizes they have a problem.
There is also different types of anxiety. My very first time I figured it out was when I sat up in bed thinking I stopped breathing in my sleep. I always have to have something to worry about, my kids, my husband, money, car trips, kids in school, kids on the bus, my kids riding their bikes, you name it I can worry about it. Any antidepressant can make you tired thou. Some people will have effects from some where others will not. It took me about 6 weeks before paxil made me sleep for the entire weekend. The wellbutrin thou, I only had to have about 6 hrs of sleep every night. Saving just one animal won't change the world, but it will change HIS world! |
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Good Pluba |
Well I have 5 kids, a newborn ,13 month old,7yr old,11yr old and 16 yr old. So I cant be sleeping, I am tired all the time anyways.
My Mom and Sister are hypocondriacs (sp) and are on pills they call "their nerve pills" and they sleep all the time I dont want to be like them. But thanks a lot guy!! I too worry about everything! Mostly my kids though I have always had to make sure they ar ebreathing when sleeping and I get sacred I will leave one some where, and when they took the bus to school I worried about them getting to school so I would call the school to see if they did get there, I worry about them having clean socks on or wearing the same thing the next day LOL Maybe I am just CRAZY? LOL |
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Grand Pluba |
We're all crazy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -Dale Carnegie |
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Good Pluba |
But Von, don't not talk to your doc because you are worried about side effects. If you need meds you will be glad you did. You will feel like a new person. Really!
Saving just one animal won't change the world, but it will change HIS world! |
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Very Good Pluba |
Wow,, well if your crazy Von then guess I am too. I have always felt very comfortable in my skin if you will , but just this last year I have had to stop watching programs where they are talking about
1. crimes involving murder (always found those shows interesting before) and 2. Discovery channel shows where they are talking about how likely this dooms day scenario or anouther is to happen, for example, yellow stone blowing up because its really just a giant volcano, or omg the one where they were discussing how some scientists discovered the earth has a "wabble" in the radio waves it sends out and that they believe those wabbles to "mean" that the earth flipped completely upside down on its axis momentarily throwing the gravitional field out of wack,, my god where do they come up with that crap?? (not that I disbelieve it,, but did we really need this information????)  Anyways, my original point was going to be that as we get older, typically in our 30s, we start to come to terms with the idea that we are NOT super human , things CAN happen to us, and its particularly distressing when we have kids to consider. I have good moments and bad moments in dealing with those thoughts,, and yes I too have had what I would consider a few "panic" attacks where I became light headed, felt my limbs tingle and genuinely thought I was going to die. Considering all thats out there as well as "within" our own bodies that can go wrong,, Id really be kind of suprised if anyone has ever NOT worried themselves into a panic. Im not saying "blow it off" ,, if you feel you need help or someone to talk too about the feelings and fears DoxieChicks advice is definatly right on. Dont put it off because most likely if you feel its that overwhelming it is and you'll probably only feel worse until you do seek help and get on something that will help bring down your anxiety hormones like wellbutrin, prozac and paxil can. Medicating a panic disorder does NOT make you nuts or mentally ill , it simply makes you smart enough to realize that hormones can cause changes in your thinking. God knows we are quick to say "she has PMS, dont mess with her", or "oh shes weepy because shes pregnant".. a sudden change in your thinking thats causing you to become very focused on something like dying is IMO no different. Either way, I hope you find peace again,, irregardless of what you decide to do. |
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Good Pluba |
I cant watch those shows either.
This all started when I was like 24 or 25 I'm 34 now. |
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Newba Pluba |
Well make that three of us LOL. I also have a VERY Big fear of dying. However mine doesn't make me go into panic attacks, it makes me go into a depression. Mine started when I was 9yrs old and saw "Return Of The Living Dead" for the first time(that movie still scares the B-Jesus out of me, but I LOVE it funny huh). Anyway, I guess that's when it dawned on me that I was eventually going to die. I seem to think about it more and more the older I get and realize that that time is quickly approaching. When it hits I just try to keep myself busy to take my mind off of it and go for a walk to clear my mind and talk to God about it.
Trish |
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Good Pluba |
I got this in my e mail the other day and thought it would be fitting to post it here. From Daily Buddist Wisdom:
A man long absent comes home safe from afar. His kin, his friends, his companions, delight in his return. In just the same way, when you've done good & gone from this world to the world beyond, your good deeds receive you-- as kin, someone dear comes home. -Dhammapada, 16, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu |
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