Just needed to get something off my chest. P and I had a huge and I mean HUGE arguement today. The rings came off today. So if I am not normal jolly self please bear with me.
Posts: 2432 | Location (City, State): Pennsylvania | Registered: Sat March 27 2004
Don't worry about it Papet, I am not sure who you are talking about but it sounds like someone you are in a relationship with. As a couple I think its mandatory you bring out the absolute best and worse in each other. Today was bad but tomorrow can only get better!!!
Posts: 2875 | Location (City, State): South Carolina | Registered: Tue April 13 2004
Bad is when you have a spat and go to different rooms to calm down. This was much worse. There were accusations, clothes being packed, commitment ring being taken off the flung at me . We have been sitting in the same room for over an hour. I keep telling him I dont want him to leave and he keeps saying the ball is in my court. I can not stop him from leaving and wont. But I also am not going to sit here and let him make himself out to be the martyr. IF he wants to leave it will be his choice, he is trying to goat me into telling him to leave when that is NOT what I want.
Posts: 2432 | Location (City, State): Pennsylvania | Registered: Sat March 27 2004
It is hard when you have a huge fight with the person you love... but I believe your relationship gets stronger by these little spats. I hope things do get work out with you and your mate.
Pap, Not knowing alot about the fight, I would just like to say that sometimes you really just need some attention.If this fight kinda came outta left field for you then just stop and think... What could be on his mind? What is bothering him? Does he need to talk about something but doesn't really know how to bringit up? Is he stressed? I take out things on my husband, half the time he just apoligizes, even when he didn't do any6thing wrong.Thats sweet of him, but it doesn't help, don't know why, but sometimes if something is really bothering me I will go all around the world trying to bring u0p anything possible to fuss about except whatever is on my mind. Just let him know you love him and you are there, tell him.Tell him that whatever is wrong its o.k., you have each other, you can get through anything.I don't wanna pretend I know whats going on with you two, I just think there is something there that you are not aware of, nothing bad, just maybe he can't express his feelings or thoughts on something!! And besides tell him to calm his butt down, you are a great guy and a wonderful catch, and he should thank God everyday to be loved by you!!
Posts: 2875 | Location (City, State): South Carolina | Registered: Tue April 13 2004
Tell him you want him to stay, but you want him to do what HE wants to do.Let him know that if he IS wanting to leave then you are not going to make it easy for him, you are not gonna TELL him to leave, its his choice.Sit down, think about exactly how you would feel waking up tomorrow and him not being there.Then tell him about it.Think about ho you would feel if he stayed and neither of you were happy after time, and how you would grow to hate each other, and then let him know about that. Talk, alot, then talk again, then somemore!!! Get him talking about feelings, the past, the present, the future, everything, eventually whatever is on his mind should come out! I hope everything works out for you.But no matter what we are here for you!
Posts: 2875 | Location (City, State): South Carolina | Registered: Tue April 13 2004
Pap...all you can do is give him some space and let him cool down, but before you do that...tell him that you cannot and you will not stop him from leaving if that is what he wants or needs to do. Also let him know that it is NOT what you want, but you love him enough to go along with his choice. Cheer up...it will get better and you have all your freinds here to back you no matter what. Although I know that is not what you need right now...we are still here if you need us... **Kisses**
Well Rudolph from the sounds of it you are neither, I know it must be sad, but please, please call a 900 # rather than try to get details of members' sex lives.
Posts: 2875 | Location (City, State): South Carolina | Registered: Tue April 13 2004
quote:Originally posted by JayLo: You have to ask yourself what upset him enough to pack and fling and want to leave? It must have been something really important to him.
It was important to him, and to me as well. That is why we managed to work things out because we still communicate even when we fight. There was just a bit too much he said/ she said stuff coming into our relationship but we managed to talk through it and figured out where its coming from and why.
The only dumb question is the one that goes UNASKED!!!!
Posts: 2432 | Location (City, State): Pennsylvania | Registered: Sat March 27 2004
quote:Originally posted by papetlover: Everything is OK..we talked it out.
I'm glad everything is okay now. That is what is important. I didn't mean to chase you out of chat.
Sorry my happiness brings you such sorrow who ever you are. But my relationship is worth fighting for and very much so worth struggling through all the small stuff. We have no big issues to deal with, its the small stuff and we just have to learn not to sweat the small stuff .
The only dumb question is the one that goes UNASKED!!!!
Posts: 2432 | Location (City, State): Pennsylvania | Registered: Sat March 27 2004
I am happy for you Pap. I knew it would work out. NEVER EVER listen to other people because alot of the time, they just want to cause trouble. If my husband and I had ever listened to others, we would have split years ago. We have enough faith in each other to bring it straight to one another and talk it out if there is something that we feel uncomfortable about. I know you two love each other and when you do, it works out. Loves bares all things ( or so they say ) As for Roudolph...go get yourself a life and grow up some. Stupid comments like that only make you look like an a$$.
Just needed to get something off my chest. P and I had a huge and I mean HUGE arguement today. The rings came off today. So if I am not normal jolly self please bear with me.
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