How do you pick up the pieces after a death or a tragedy in your family? How can one ever find happiness again when you may feel at your lowest? If you have been there please share your thoughts here.

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Originally posted by Rosemarie:
How do you pick up the pieces after a death or a tragedy in your family? How can one ever find happiness again when you may feel at your lowest? If you have been there please share your thoughts here.

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No, I don't think so. You just told me how unwise it is to share on here with strangers and I don't see you sharing anything, so I am not going to share either. I know you must have a reason for being so insecure, but since I am new here and I don't know everyone, I think I'll sit back and see just what's up with this place. Then if I decide to share, I'll get back with you.

Ohhhh, Angelina, you are a quick study.

LJ

I was talking to a member of my church this afternoon about all of the tragedy my family has endured the past four years. I was particularly upset because one of my relatives chose cremation. The family honored this relatives wish. Back to what upset me..........the cremation. My friend reminded me about the miracle of the resurrection. I know that everything will be set right someday. I understand that our bodies are going to be reunited with our spirit during the resurrection. But I really wanted a burial in a cemetery, so that I could have a place to go place flowers and show my respect. It's really been bothering me.

My mother and father are buried side by side. It gives me great peace of mind to know that they are there together. Even though they are 1000 miles from where I am currently living. I know I can go there and visit the cemetery. Knowing where they are just gives me great peace of mind.

What is wrong with cremation? My dad was buried next to my mother, she was not cremated but he was. I have a hard time talking to my father, I just feel stupid. Its not like he will answer anyway, even though I wish he would. I dont like to cry in front of people, so I dont. I dont like to think about it, So I dont. Sometimes I think that I should miss him more, cry more, ect.....

http://uniquedogbeds.tripod.com/

Here are a few good quotes that I especially like... related to death...

quotes help me get through things... it gives me a kind of comfort....

"If tears could build a stairway and memories were a lane. I would walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye, you were gone before I knew it and only God know's why. My heart still aches in sadness and secret tears still flow. What it meant to lose you no one will ever know." - its a tearjerker.

I love the song by Simple Plan, called Perfect. Its about a Dad... it just fits my dad and I perfect.... except I think that song is about a LIVING dad lol...

"You lifted me up when I could not life myself, you made me smile when I forgot how to, you were there for me in my times of need and you were there for me when I needed nothing at all."

"Sometimes you don't realize how much you love someone until they are gone."

http://uniquedogbeds.tripod.com/

I hope this brings comfort;

If You Could See Me Now

If you could see me now,I'm walking streets of gold.If you could see me now,I'm standing tall and whole.If you could see me now,You'd know I've seen His face.If you could see me now,you'd know the pain is erased.

You would't want me to ever leave this place.If you could only see me now,my light and temporary trials have worked out for my good,to know it brought Him glory when I misunderstood.Though we've had our sorrows,they never can compare what Jesus has in store for us no language can compare.

The Bible says: Absent from the body is present with the Lord. I hope this helps..Donna

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Originally posted by Rosemarie:
How do you pick up the pieces after a death or a tragedy in your family? How can one ever find happiness again when you may feel at your lowest? If you have been there please share your thoughts here.

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Only time heals your wounds. I don't believe they ever heal completely and the wounds you suffer do dictate the rest of your life.
You have to rely on your faith and believe that your life can go on and that you can be happy again one day.
Picking up the pieces is never an easy thing. You have to just take it slowly one day at a time and don't expect to wake up and feel good. If you do wake up and feel good, then be thankful and don't feel guilty about it.
Eventually you will move on without noticing it.
What I've done in the past is talk about it a lot until I could find closure for the death because in my experience this death should not have happened in the way it did. I know life is not fair, but death is even more unfair to the people left behind.
I've also kept myself very busy to occupy my mind. I learned that I needed to grieve and to let myself grieve and sometimes even in public and not to be ashamed of my pain or my tears.
That's very hard for some people and you have to suffer a lot to be able to accept that you are just human after all and emotions are a natural and very necessary thing.
We have to allow ourselves to feel our emotions in order to not hold them inside. If we hold them inside, we will never recover.
You have to get past the hurt and the anger and the grieving so you can forgive that person for 'leaving' you. Even though it probably was not their fault (unless it was suicide), then they 'left' you behind. You cannot help but to feel abandoned by this person.
Forgiveness will give you peace.
Faith will give you strength.
Belief in yourself will give you the ability to move on.
Love will find your heart, given time.

This is my opinion. Friend*

Thank-you Friend for your thoughts.

Friend,
Do you ever post in any of the other forums?

You seem to be very helpful in this forum. I'm just wondering. I do so enjoy your posts over here.......Keep up the good work.

Friend,
Check your pt's the next time you're around here.

Mr pit---I have a question for you about this forum. I think you might know. I sent you Private Topic. Please let me know via private topics, I don't want to put it on here. thanks!